I can't believe I just did that. Did that, as in, actually met with a guy 20 years older than me and tried to picture myself being "intimate" with him. Weird.
So back to the beginning- (i'm going to call him Mr. Plant; read on to see why)
Mr. plant messaged me a few times on SD4me and I didn't think it would really go anywhere, but he seemed possibly promising so I gave him my number. He called me today and said "I think we should have sushi tonight" [names nice place in Atlanta] I go on to explain that I am actually at the beach with my family for the week and tell him the area I'm in.
oh, no big deal or anything but he owns a beachside condo right next to where I am. wtf!? So next thing I know I'm at dinner and get a text from Mr. Plant saying: "Hopped back on a plane and just arrived in [town im in] can I take you out for a drink tonight?"
damn. he flew to his beach condo, FOR ME? Well, I'm sure that there was more to it that just me but still, I thought no better time than now to see what this is all about, and he seemed very nice and sincere, so I agreed.
Since I'm under 21 he couldn't take me out for drinks, so I agreed to meet him at his condo. (I know, risky, but again it was literally right next to where I was staying and he seemed nice. My uh-oh feeling wasn't going off)
So I arrived, he looked 40. Which he was. It was weird for me. Which I think I his pretty well. And we talked for about 2 hours along with a glass of wine. I know he really was into me, and I think I kept him very interested with conversation...although he tried to kiss me when I left but I gave him the cheek.
As for allowance and all that...I don't really know what he's looking for, almost got the "I want a real relationship" vibe. We'll see.
So throughout our short time together he kept telling me I was like a plant and so easy to talk to (um, ok, I don't talk to plants but cool if you do?) and he just texted me "I think I've discovered a new favorite plant.." {Is that supposed to be smooth?)
BUT all in all, it was really good conversation, so I'll think about seeing him again.
Pot #2 I have a 2 day trip in NYC arranged with...this should be interesting...
Pot #3 is taking me SHOPPING then to dinner on Thurs...so this one is exciting because I'm going to get something out of it before ever having to do anything! yay!
Question Sugarbabies!
Will a SD be mad that I'm a virgin? Will he only desire someone experienced?
~Kiss
Hahaha older guys have the weirdest pick up lines. They're so cheesy!
ReplyDeleteWhen is your trip to NYC? Yay for shopping with #3!! Milk it!
As for the virgin thing, it really depends on the guy, just like a normal relationship. Some men would probably love it and some wouldn't want to pursue something with you. If you do tell them, make sure you reassure them that you aren't going to become a stage 5 clinger lol. SDs DEF don't want that. I would say just feel it out with each guy and you'll probably get an idea of how they'll fell about it. :)
Thanks! You give the best advice!!! I'm about to post a blog about the shopping trip...would LOVe your advice on that! :P
ReplyDeleteAnd, not sure if i'm still going to NYC...someone made a good point to me- i've never met him and what if I hate him? Hate to be stuck there with him!
Talk to college SB about the whole virginity thing. Also, if I may tell you what I told her: don't lose your virginity this way. You will regret it. You're already hesitant about their age and looks; in addition to that, you're not mature enough for this. I mean that in the BEST way. You still seem so innocent and fresh, all of which this sugar game loves to eat up alive and spit out like yesterday's hottest porn star.
ReplyDeleteSo my advice? If you don't understand his plant comment, you haven't lived enough life to "get" how this game works.
And please please please don't lose your virginity to someone old enough to be your father. That is a once in a lifetime thing that should be between you and a guy you're legitimately attracted to.
I hope you'll listen to some of this: and get out before it's too late!!!
From East Coast, USA (not letting me sign in atm)
oh wow youre a virgin?! that will more than likely change once ur in a for real, serious arrangement hun... my # has grown by about 4-5 since i began being a SD in Jan. not saying this will be the same for u (i had sex too soon w. some!) but im sure some guys will be turned on by the virgin thing? x3
ReplyDeleteThe plant comment meant that you're very green aka fresh, young, and new.
ReplyDeleteBefore you full blown have sex with a SD, mess around a little bit and see if you're comfortable with that. If not, then hold back.